family confusion.

I don't much care for the title but I needed on so meh. There's been some drama going on and I just felt like I needed to air it somewhere. As some of you may know, I have an older sister. (she's 7 years older than me.) She's my half sister from my fathers first marriage. (He's been married almost three times. totally different story.)

Last month, before christmas, I was contacted and friended by my sisters mother on Facebook. Now I don't know her very well personally, though the few times I have ever met her she didn't seem to like me. And from everyone I know who knows her she is passive aggressive and completely insane. (not all from the same source.) I accepted her friend request hesitantly and read the message.

The message was scary. It said that my sister was in trouble and that she needed contact with my dad. I wont get into all the detail of trying to get my dad to call but the end result was this; apparently my sister had been hanging around a not-so-nice dude who had beat her up and broke her phone. He was now in jail and my sister on her way to the hospital.

my dad drove up (she lives in Vermont.) my sister had also been doing drugs from what I hear. My dad told me he screamed at her like he's never screamed at any of us.( my dad doesn't get mad often, but holy fuckin shit you better run when he does!)

Things calmed down. My sister signed up for a drug program from what I heard and I didn't get to see my niece and nephew for xmas (I was very bummed. I should also mention through this whole ordeal I was freaking out, thinking they would end up in foster care. Thinking I might have to adopt them. Which isn't horrible but there's no way I could do that now.)

Here's the latest bit and why I am writing. My sister and her mother are fighting on facebook. Not through messaging each other, but through comments and writing on each others walls. It's sickening. Her mom keeps making this SUPER passive aggressive updates that are obviously about my sister but never mentions my sis' name. To make matters worse her other daughter (my sister has another half sibling from her mother and another man. Confusing I know.) keeps leaving 'I love you' messages to their mom in an obvious suck up move. My sister struck back twice. Once commenting on a status, the second time on her wall. Her mother preceded to tear those posts apart.

I comment on one saying, "you know this is the kind of thing that can be said in a private message, unless you are that desperate for mediation." I then put a status update saying, "I don't like some of the things going on right now." her mother responded to both pretty much agreeing with me and calling her daughter childish and immature. I deleted her from my facebook.

I don't understand why a 30 year old and a 50 something year old cant settle their issues by themselves. Why should I, her 23 year old sister have to be a deciding factor? Even though she's my sister I don't know her very well, and based on what little time I've spent with her mother, I don't much like her. But even if I did, I might automatically be on my sisters side.

Sorry this is so long. Writing out this stuff just helps me figure it all out. Thanks for reading.